我们如何才能彼此尊重并富有成效地提出不同意见？在这场令人深思的演讲中，团队建设者马特·特罗布利（Matt Trombley）反思并探讨了“争胜主义（agonism）”——即在问题上倾向于采取僵硬立场的做法——并分享了为什么找到与他人的共同点可以成为解决矛盾的第一步。他说：“当你找到和他人的共同点时，哪怕只有一点点，这个共同点都会让你领会对方的美好、复杂以及威严。“

求同的美好与复杂

Rigid stances on issues, a mindset called agonism, can quietly poison personal bonds and communities alike. After a neighbor wrongly accused a family of running an illegal daycare because their adopted children looked different, the need for empathy and connection became clear. Finding even one shared value, like honoring someone’s chosen name, can transform division into understanding. Forgiveness and extravagant grace, as seen in the story of a mother pardoning her son’s killer in Iran, create space for healing and deeper relationships.