Whether it’s micromanaging playtime, constantly hovering or incessantly texting, the adult takeover of childhood has created a crisis of anxiety in both children and parents, says Lenore Skenazy, cofounder and president of Let Grow, an organization dedicated to normalizing childhood independence. With wit and humor, she lays out the unexpected benefits of letting our kids be a bit more “free range” — and shows why the most teachable moments happen when parents aren’t there.

Why you should spend less time with your kids

Hovering over children has left both parents and kids more anxious than ever, with studies showing American youth have less independence than in past generations. One child’s triumphant solo subway ride sparked controversy but also revealed how capable kids can be when trusted. Allowing children to explore, play, and problem-solve on their own builds confidence and essential life skills. When parents step back, the most powerful growth and pride—for everyone—often happens.

Giving Kids Freedom Eases Anxiety For Families Everywhere

Hovering over children and micromanaging their every move has fueled record levels of anxiety in both kids and parents. One study found that over half of parents refuse to let tweens walk to a friend’s house or even browse another grocery aisle alone. When kids solve problems themselves—like a child who left a store in frustration, then bravely returned to ask for help—they gain critical life skills and pride. Restoring independence to childhood helps families reconnect with what really matters.

Letting Kids Go Boosts Confidence And Reduces Anxiety

Constant supervision and over-involvement have created a crisis of anxiety for both children and parents. One striking example: in a recent study, only half of parents would let their child walk to a different grocery store aisle alone. Allowing children more independence, from free play to simple errands, helps them develop essential life skills and builds true self-esteem. Restoring a balance between parent and kid worlds leads to happier, more resilient families.